Uh oh…it’s gonna be one of THOSE blogs from Babb.
Today in California, the ban on gay marriage was overturned by a federal judge. This makes me very happy. Although I don’t know why…
Girls kissing…hmmmmm good start, but not the answer.
The decision is likely to be appealed which could take it all the way to the Supreme Court…where it could decide not only the fate of California…but perhaps all of the United States. That prospect has me filled with equal parts hope and dread. But I don’t know why…
You see…I don’t have a dog in this fight. I will never get gay married. I was lucky enough to meet a lovely woman who agreed to marry me and I know I could never find anyone better of either gender. …oh…and I’m not gay. (Despite songs you may have heard to the contrary)
I don’t know these ladies…why do I care what they do?
So why does it bother me so much that people are trying to stop gays from having these rights? I could try and tie this in to my Black heritage and the struggles my people went through for equality…but that doesn’t ring true. First off, I’m too young to have any true experience with the oppression that people like my dad and grandmother had to go through. Secondly, it’s just not on the same level. Blacks weren’t allowed to eat at the same counters, drink out of the same water fountains or enjoy many of the rights an American citizen should. Arguably, getting married was the least of their worries. So I can see why a lot of Black people get upset when to struggle for gay rights is compared to the civil rights movement However, even though the Gay and Black struggles are not equal, you cannot deny the parallel. When rights are taken away from a group, you are basically telling that group, “You’re not worth as much as the rest of us.”
I think that’s what gets stuck in my craw about this. It just FEELS so unjust. I know we’ve all been told “life’s unfair,” but this just seems so needlessly unfair. Who is it really hurting to have gays married to each other? What damage does it cause society? Even if you believe that being gay is a sin, how does stopping them from being married stop the sinful behavior? It’s not like they’re not gay until they’re married. They’re gay right now…yup as I type this dudes are doin’ it. Nothing you can do about it. But you can use the tax revenue from all the crap they buy for their weddings to pave roads, pay teachers, and give the firefighters what they need. Plus, don’t you think that maybe some of those orphan kids in foster homes would like some parents?
So I guess that’s why I care. It just seems so illogical to go the other direction. But that leads me to another question… The party that seems to be championing this ban on gay marriage is the republicans, right? But aren’t they the party of “hey government, stay out of my business?” So why do they want the government to get IN to the business of who should and shouldn’t marry? I mean I can understand that you’d want the government to step in if it was going to effect national productivity, public health, etc…but it doesn’t.
So the real question is…why do OPPONENTS of gay marriage care?
I dunno if this really counts as “irony,” but I’m laughing anyway.