For those of you who haven’t heard, the California Supreme Court upheld the ban on same sex marriage today. So I was at a bar tonight waiting for a show to start and one of the TV’s had a news show won where supporters of Prop 8 were speaking. I have spent the last hour trying (unsuccessfully) to find the video of what I saw, because when I quote what the fool said, you’re going to think I made it up.
A Black Leader of some sort was at the podium and said basically, “The Black family has enough troubles facing it. That’s why we must stop gay marriage because it is a potential threat to Black families.”
Are you kidding me?! Gay marriage is a “threat” to Black families? How?! How the hell is that possible?!
Look I understand that many religions do not support gay marriage. I fully understand and appreciate why that is a very valid argument for why those people wouldn’t get “gay married.” And also why they would be against their children living a gay lifestyle etc. I don’t agree with that point of view, I look at the bible differently, but I respect their right to believe that and I would never get the government involved to try and change their right to believe that, practice that, and teach their children that.
What I don’t understand is how that extends to this country, this state and it’s laws. I know the religious folks on TV get tired of hearing “separation of church and state” as a justification…but it couldn’t be more apparent that it is lacking here. There is no rational, scientific, human-world explanation for why gay marriage shouldn’t be allowed.
I’m married to a woman (a far better woman than I deserve, I might add) if my gay neighbor gets married to another man…how does that weaken my marriage? There are children in foster homes and shelters right now who are going to fall through the cracks because there are not enough straight married couples to adopt them. If there were more gay couples who had the legal rights to adopt them…wouldn’t that be a good thing?
I dunno…there are many things that I don’t necessarily believe in for MYSELF, but I wouldn’t support them being illegal. Alcohol, for instance…I don’t drink…but I wouldn’t want to deal with the mess if it were made illegal again. Same is true of cigarettes, drugs, and even abortion (I know…that’s a whole other debate). But just because I don’t believe in it for ME doesn’t mean I should be able to make that choice for other people I don’t know.
But just to be fair…let me say to the anti-prop 8 people….this guy is not helping your message:
The California Supreme Court are not fascists…in fact, if it weren’t for their ruling last year, gay marriage wouldn’t have been legal in California to begin with. They were deciding on a rule of law, not on the issue of gay marriage. The LA Times did a good job of explaining it.
So basically now it’s gotta go back to the voters as early as next year. So you have to convince those who are on the fence or who are on the other side that ours is the right side to be on…it’s a little hard to do that when folks on our side are making wild, inflammatory statements about the supreme court, Mormons, republicans, etc. I understand the anger behind what your saying, but your goal now should be all about convincing people that you’re right…and you can’t do that by calling people names. So, knock it off you butt heads!
Also, my comedian friend, Thai Rivera does a great bit about yet another side of the argument from the gay perspective:
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